If you have started setting up boundaries with your
narcissistic parents or family, you might be getting some serious back lash.
Keep in mind that this is normal. They do not like your boundaries. They want
to be able to grab you and do what they want with you whenever they want. They
will start throwing things out there like, "what is wrong with
you?!", but in a disgusted tone, or, "you need to remember we are
your family", which basically means, "how dare you have interests
other than us?", or...and this one is a given, "the Bible says to
honor your father and mother!”
Just because you're setting up boundaries doesn't mean you
are leaving or disrespecting anyone. That is THEIR perspective and they are
upset that they might be losing control over you.
Just remember that with narcissists, the more boundaries you
set up, the more their personal attacks heat up. Plus, when they see they are
losing control they will begin resorting to actions such as excluding you,
cutting you out of the will, slandering you in the community but trying to
disguise it as concern (such as telling people they think you might have a
particular mental illness because you went to college in another state, or are
getting married and beginning your own life so therefore you must need help,
etc).
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