Psychopaths shame & humiliate their targets, because
this solidifies their dominance in the relationship. If you are thrown into an
embarrassing situation, feeling less than human, then you suddenly start to
feel inferior to the person who orchestrated it all to begin with. You strive
to meet their impossible standards, doing everything you can to prove yourself
better than your past "mistakes". You begin to realize that all of
the secrets you shared with your once trusted partner are now being judged
& used against you. They've discovered what makes you tick, and they use
this information to manufacture lose-lose situations and watch you
self-destruct. Ideally, there will be an audience of their friends and yours,
to finalize the triangulation and crazy-making behavior. You will find that no
healthy human being focuses so aggressively on your negative aspects. Once this
toxic person is removed from your life, there will be so many others who love
& appreciate the qualities that your abuser intentionally ignored.
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