Psychopathic Dosing: Small and temporary resurrections of the idealize phase to keep the victim under his/her control.
How it works:
1. Draw victim in with idealization/flattery
2. Victim becomes hooked to the idealization/flattery
3. Start to abuse the victim (typically begins with small, subtle criticisms)
4. Victim tries to remain easy-going and flexible, determined not to react.
5. Escalate the abuse
6. Victim reacts and might try to stand up for themselves.
7. Dose the victim with just enough idealization (Step 1) to distract from the abuse
8. Victim forgives/absorbs the abuse.
9. Repeat 1-8, over and over again.
10. Abuse continues to get worse and worse, and less dosing is required because the victim's boundaries are slowly being destroyed.
I lived the last 2 years with this person. Just left last week. Now I find this that validates my feelings and suspicions EXACTLY! Any suggestions how to "regain myself"?
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