The question came up why more fathers don't seem as outraged about their situation. I am not a man or a father but I could attempt to take a guess.....
They are beat down, feeling helpless and why not. The police won't enforce the parenting plan if your lucky enough to have one that is even remotely fair. The judges refuse to enforce it when the other parent blatantly ignores the order (that is unless you miss a child support or spousal support payment). All your family and friends are tired of hearing it and act as though its your fault you had kids with her/him. Then you add the fact that you have to work 2-3 jobs to pay for the child you never see. Lets not forget that there is no legal advice help that is of reasonable price range that can guide you. The resources out there are specifically geared for women and just try as a man to get help and you are laughed out of the office. Oh and then to fight this, get a lawyer and everything else always happen during the hours of 9-4, obviously you can not stop working or risk going to jail and as many set overs and hearing there are you are likely to get fired if you don't own your own business. Simply put its not that they are not as angry, pissed and all around irate about it, they are just TIRED and don't know where to turn.
But like I said I am just a mom,wife and step mom. I am sure most men on here are have much more then just this going on. But this is what I see and hear. Feel free to add to this.
~Anali
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The frail truth sets claws, sinks teeth, sends a bitterness to the bone
A casualty of a deep, dark, seething pain that rots silently and acts loudly
Lashes of confused wrath, twisted in a mirror of lies, shame, secrets; frozen depths.
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